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How long ago was this? From what I see, sneaking out or taking any action is less common for young people today. I would actually be encouraged to see a kid take action without permission, even if it's action I don't agree with, because there's not enough independent individual action in the world anymore.
I know this is off your point of the gov't interfering with the parents' decision, but what stands out to me is that the child or young woman had the initiative to do something. Something has happened in the past 20 years.
Glad I grew up in the 50's and free ranged all over the town, climbed the hills and cliffs, hiked to springs and harvested asparagus and water cress for our dinner table. Stayed out until dark with no cell phone!!
Which is not to say that CPS doesn't sometimes find either (1) actual abuse or (2) children being a real public nuisance, who should be stopped (and adult third-parties don't dare touch them nowadays). We need to roll back that whole area of law 100 years, not just abolish CPS.
I don't about Utah, but some places are passing laws against kids doing anything unsupervised. Moreover kids face constant questioning from adults under 30 who see them out and have never heard of the concept of kids playing unsupervised. They react to 8-y/o kids playing at a park like seeing a lost 3-y/o.
I grew up in the 80, just missing the time when parent became a verb, creating a generation of young adults for whom adulting is a verb.
I think if we deprive people of this, it's like depriving them of some important vitamin while growing up. I've seen some of them reach early adulthood and experience anxiety at the prospect of making the simplest decision. I don't think it's a mental illness issue. They really never have had the slightest bit of freedom in their lives. If they start debating who gets to go first or which game to play, a hovering adult rushes over and resolves it.
I love how the cub scouts began the school year saying this year the kids will be doing things with fire, knives, shop tools in a fun and responsible way. I watched my nine-old cut with a bandsaw after someone showed him how to do it and saw he was of a temperament to be keenly aware of the danger of how one mistake could cut off a finger. I see him and get sad when he struggles with some task others have a natural aptitude for and see him kindly offer to help others with things he's a natural at. Those ups and downs, little successes and failures, are something people try to shield kids from. I really think my 9-y/o internalizes the idea that he's good at some things bad at other, that it's his choice if he wants to work at improving at things he's not good at or work on becoming even better at things he's good at, and that there are more things to try than a human life has time for so it's okay to try and fail; that's part of life. These other kids need an emotional support fluffy at the first sign of failure. It's not because they're pansies or snowflakes or whatever epithet. It's because their parents shielded them from any failure or disagreement, and they believed their parents' and teachers' message that any failure/disagreement was abhorrent.
This was during the 50s when I also rode my bike to school and back several blocks away on a daily basis. There were a bike racks at school for lots of kids.
It was way different when I had kids. Walk or ride a bike? Forget it.
My wife would have a fit if our kids were not delivered to school by car. With so many stories about kidnapped and sexually preyed upon kids in the news, I had nada for an argument about "the good ole' days.". And a bike rack? What's a bike rack?
About ten years ago a next door neighbor told me she had pinpointed several sex offenders in our small Birmingham "satellite city" and two lived on our very street.
This was before a F5 tornado missed our homes by a quarter of a mile and obliterated a lot of homes on my street. Looked like a freaking war zone.
The lady had located the offenders by using a site such as this~
https://www.parentsformeganslaw.org/p...
I really think "sex trafficking" is not real, at least not as a thing where strangers randomly kidnap kids playing with their friends at the park in a middle-class neighborhood down the road from the house where their parents are doing household tasks. It's people in bizarre situations, where the parents are not present or are hanging out with criminals.
We are the one family on our block that sends our 7- and 9-y/o out to play in the neighborhood. One amazing thing that has happened is other parents have confided they used to go out and play, but they felt like they shouldn't let there kids out b/c no one's out and "things are different today." So kids are starting to go out more; I'm surprised it's working. One parent lets her 4-y/o son play with my kids at a park briefly if my kids watch him. The 4-y/o loves going out into the big wide world and my 7-y/o feels the desire to be a responsible role model and looking out for someone younger. It's how people should grow up! This is almost unheard-of now. Usually kids spend every waking minute with an adult hovering telling them exactly what to do.
Me dino warned my kids about talking to strangers.
I also taught them to scream "She's not my mommy!" and "He's not my daddy!" if they ever happened to be grabbed. But that never happened.
Out of the blue I now recall my wife (at the time) being called into the elementary school principle's office for a chat about our youngest punching another boy in the nose.
My ex said, "I told my son to punch that bully in the nose if he ever bothered him again." The matter was dropped.
Kids should NEVER go off alone with a stranger, but I encourage them to talk to strangers in public if they have a need to because the vast majority of strangers wouldn't think of hurting a child, and those who would hide it in public. Most people are enraged by the thought of abusing children, so children shouldn't walk the world in constant fear of a rare criminal.
'60's), but that was out in the country. We lived for awhile on a blacktop road, but mostly on dirt roads.
And it's not always safe out there. I had to walk home from school because the bus wouldn't go on that dirt road, and I was molested by a punk
who lived near us. (Whether he intended to "go all the way" I don't know, but he let me go, I guess because he saw I was getting very upset).
I didn't tell anybody about it for years.
But I ranged and roamed around somewhat. I
just knew better than to let a punk lure me into a shed in his yard again.
Good!
I swore I would not grow old and say "kids these days...", but I really think something bad happened in the 90s, right after I had grown up. If I had grown up 10 years later, I would not have ridden my bike to the park, to school, or learned to use the bus system.
Yes you and the rest of the liberals elected the Clinton Crime Cartel. Now you can see the effect of it takes a village to raise a child. What a bunch of BS.
I caused helicopter parenting? Even if you were saying it was some other group, this would be intensely stupid.
It actually does take a village: elders who within reason look out for kids as they grow and have more freedom/responsibility; and younger kids who bigger kids with a crossing guard badge and start to take responsibility for. Kids who live that way are better able to grow into individuals with agency than kids with a helicopter parent.
Plagiarized the title of the book “It Takes a Village.” Author Jonah Goldberg said of the book: “No more thorough explication of the liberal fascist agenda can be found than in Hillary Clinton’s best-selling book, “It Takes a Village.” All the hallmarks of the fascist enterprise reside within its pages.” Clinton learned from Marian Wright Edelman how to use children as propaganda tools for her ideological agenda: childhood is a crisis, and the government must come to the rescue. “I cannot say enough in support of home visits,” Clinton said.
As an attorney in Arkansas, Mrs. Clinton wrote articles in favor of children’s “rights” to divorce their parents. Goldberg wrote: “Hillary Clinton’s writings on children show a clear, unapologetic, and principled desire to insert the state deep into family life – a goal that is in perfect accord with similar efforts by totalitarians of the past. … She condones the state’s assumption of parental responsibilities … because she is opposed to the principle of parental authority in any form.” She believes families hold children back and the state sets them free. “Hillary Clinton’s ideas are, in general, fascist.”
Hillary’s guru was Rabbi Michael Lerner, who authored The New Socialist Revolution. He wrote of the coming socialist take-over.
One of Hillary Clinton’s most outrageous statements: “We’re going to take things away from you on behalf of the common good.”
She sounds a little like the definition of chutzpah!
Reality is it takes two parents no village required.