While we're very happy to have you in the Gulch and appreciate your wanting to fully engage, some things in the Gulch (e.g. voting, links in comments) are a
privilege, not a right. To get you up to speed as quickly as possible, we've provided two options for earning these privileges.
- You must reach a Gulch score of 100. You can earn points in the Gulch by posting content, commenting, or by other members voting up your posts.
- You may upgrade to a Galt's Gulch Producer membership to immediately gain these privileges.
Your current Gulch score:
ha-ha I clicked Reply intending to offer this same one-word response. Now I'll give a long-winded one in another reply. lol
So if you want to have a party and cake/ice cream/etc. do it, but don't pretend that some great accomplishment has occurred. As someone else has already said: Does anyone flunk pre-school?
Celebrating 'graduation' from pre-school cheapens the whole idea of graduation.
The only time now age 69 me wore a cap and gown was at the end of the 12th grade.
Later had Troy State mail me my diploma.
I was already too busy working a job.
For the reasons stated in the article...yes; but sadly, in the mainstream of society, It's to show off or justify the effort of the parents, not the kids.
I have two little ones and I never understood preschool graduation celebrations blown out of proportion like they typically are. I think the kids are even confused by it, honestly. Not everything is a party. People, kids especially, need to learn to find joy in basic life. This, believe it or not, is a challenging lesson for parents these days. My kids get bored and I respond with a long, goofy list, "Do pushups, sit-ups, math, read, let's go on a hike, let's play catch..." Not everything is a bounce house and cupcakes. Jezuz...I look back on my youth when I was 7,8,9...I'd steal a piece of bacon from the table, sneak down to the bridge with my little fishing pole and spend the whole morning catching bullheads. Wanna see the bridge? She's due for replacement...
http://www.navcen.uscg.gov/pdf/bridge...
Edit for spelling.
It was a time of life in which the raising, socialization, and early teaching of children was a serious matter for parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, even neighbor friends and baby sitters. I fully agree that "Watching a mind emerge in a child is a most wonderful thing!" as well as watching the child's identity, self direction towards learning, interest in the world beyond his home and family, self confidence, pride in accomplishment, and learning to recognize needs for more learning and practice to improve emerge.
The question you pose in your posting immediately raises the flag of concern in my opinion, and points directly to two issues of strong debate; celebration for participation and passing parental responsibility to gov't.
I fully applaud giving children all the stimuli of developing cognitive and manual skills, language, creativity, logic, and respect for self and others as their minds become ready for each next step. A child's mind is naturally eager and joyous for each new insight and expansion. I give you +10, Dr. Hudgins, for that last sentence:
"Watching a mind emerge in a child is a most wonderful thing!"
A child's mind is the most precious resource in the world. That, if anything, is sacred.
I get to see it a hundred times a day at my art show booth where kids play with our math-based puzzles. See my website, http://www.gamepuzzles.com/fyplayer.htm, for sets suitable for the very young.
Even though kindergarten requires forcing yourself to sit down and write letters or read words, it just doesn't seem like something worthy of a celebration.
My kid just had her kindergarten graduation. Kindergarten graduation per se means nothing to me, but I found myself afraid to look away, feeling like if I looked away and blinked I might look back and see her graduating from college.
Is it appropriate in my opinion to blow hundreds of dollars celebrating something which the individual so honored will forget the next day? Nope. Unless really what I'm trying to celebrate is my own little success at parenting. But seriously, if I'm that insecure that I have to celebrate such a minor accomplishment as preschool graduation to shore up my ego, I have serious image issues and that money I blew on a fancy cake, cap and gown, etc. for my child should probably be used seeing a psychiatrist.
And let's get down to why a parent would feel a need to celebrate by proxy? It's pretty obvious really: guilt. These parents haven't been spending the time with their children that they should have so they attempt to compensate by throwing money at them. It's unfortunately a growing issue in today's day and age and is starting at a younger and younger age where parents have a child, then drop the child off at daycare while they both go off to work. I know some parents who are dropping off month-old babies to daycare.
Now please realize that I am not referring to single-parent families. Those parents rarely experience the guilt described above because they know that their first responsibility is to put bread on the table and that means a job. Or at least it does to a productive member of society.
So really, the question being posited by DRHudgins has to do with the value of parenting itself.
That being said, however, if you are asking me to applaud your preschool graduation ceremony, you'll be waiting indefinitely. Not because I haven't been subjected to such festivities for my children but because in my mind it is a terrible precedent to set. I have no interest in establishing in my children the expectation that their routine activities entitle them to extravagance and special recognition - especially not for an impressionable five-year-old. I reserve special recognition (ie the expenditure of hundreds of dollars) for when my child does something rare like win the science fair, attain the rank of Eagle Scout, be inducted into National Honor Society, graduate cum laud (or better), etc. - achievements which set them apart from their peers and are the result of sustained, personal effort. In my mind, we do our children a grave disservice to treat the commonplace as extraordinary because it gravely distorts the value comparison between the mundane and the exceptional. That kind of parenting is not for me, nor will I celebrate such.
Kids should be allowed to study pretty much what they are interested in, not what the indoctrination center determined they "need" to learn.